Is Your Marriage A Team?
By Dr. Richard E. Williams

Ask yourself and your spouse the right questions and keep your marriage strong.

How is your marriage?

            1.  50% of Christian marriages end in divorce; don’t let yours be one of them.
            2.  20% of divorces can be blamed on Face Book and other social networks.   

 Communication

            1. Do you have open and honest communications with each other? 
            2. Do you shut down if things get heated or if the conversation does not go your
                 way?         
            3. Are you intimidated by your spouse?
            4. Do you feel safe communicating with your spouse?  If not, why?
            5.  Do you or your spouse put each other down?
            6. Are you or your spouse critical?
            7. Do you talk badly about your spouse to your children?  If you do, you are
                 poisoning them and it will hurt you in the long run.  Your children are not
                 emotionally equipped to deal with your marriage issues. 
            8. Do you allow your children to talk bad about yourspouse? 
 
           

Do you support each other’s dreams?

            1.  Do you support each other’s career?
            2.  If your spouse stays home to be with the kids; do you recent it?
            3.  Do you vacation together and have a good time?

 

Do you live above your means?

            1. Do you spend money on “things” when your bills are not being paid?
            2. Do you hide your spending from your spouse?
            3. Would you be able and willing to give an account of your spending to your
                 spouse if they asked?
                 
            4. Are you demanding things that your finances cannot  support? 
               
            5. Do you use a credit card to live on?
            6. Do you and your spouse agree on how money is being spent?
            7. Do you have separate check books and bank accounts? 
            8  If you do have a separate check book or bank account, is it because one of you
                are controlling or do you not trust each other?
                

Are you and your spouse a team?

1. Do you talk?
2. Do you talk about family decisions?
3. Do you hide things from your spouse?
4. Do you allow the children to divide you and your spouse?
5. Do you stand up for your spouse?
6. If you know your spouse is wrong in an area, do you  communicate it to them?
7. Are you passive?
8. Are you selfish and always want your own way?
9. Are you keeping secretes?

Do you make time to make love?

1. Do you care about each other’s needs in bed?
2. Are you selfish in bed?
3. Are you willing to be adventuresome in bed?
4. Do you talk about what you like and dislike?
5. Do you understand the value of sex?
6. How often do you make love?  The average is two to three    times a week.
7. Do you allow your children to interfere with your sex life?
8. Can you be affectionate without it always leading to sex?

Do you spend time with your spouse?

1. Do you take walks together?
2. Do you go on dates?
3. Do you hold hands?

4. Do you like your spouse?  If not, why?

Do you talk or brainstorm together to find solutions to problems?

1. Are you a control freaks?
2. Is your relationship Biblically upside down?
3. Who wears the pants in the family? 
4. Do you dominate rather than lead. (The Man)
5. Are you a constant nag? (The Woman)

Are you afraid of your spouse?

            1. Is your spouse violent to you?  If so, seek help immediately.
            2. Does your spouse threaten you?
            3. Does your spouse a lie to you?

Are you spiritually on the same page?

            1. Can and do you pray together?
            2. Are one of you spiritual and the other not?
            3. Do you attend church together?
            4. Do you have a conflict with your spouse’s lifestyle?
            5. Do you have the same belief system?

 

I am sure other questions have come to your mind; if so add then to the list.

If you are having marriage problems, please seek help.  Your marriage is very valuable and must be maintained.  If your car broke down you would get it fixed, if your marriage brakes down you need to get it fixed as well.  Fix it before it is too late. 

If Eve would have talk to Adam before she ate the forbidden fruit, would she have eaten it?

I have selected some scripture for you both to read.

Marriage is a Team

(Genesis 2:18 GNB)  Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to live alone. I will make a suitable companion to help him."

(Hebrews 13:4 KJV)  Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

(Proverbs 5:19 KJV)  Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.

(Amos 3:3 KJV)  Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

(Ephesians 5:25 BBE)  Husbands, have love for your wives, even as Christ had love for the church, and gave himself for it;

(Colossians 3:19 BBE)  Husbands, have love for your wives, and be not bitter against them.

(Colossians 3:18 GNB)  Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, for that is what you should do as Christians.

(Ephesians 5:24 GNB)  And so wives must submit themselves completely to their husbands just as the church submits itself to Christ.

(Proverbs 21:19 GNB)  Better to live out in the desert than with a nagging, complaining wife.

(1 Corinthians 7:3 GNB)  A man should fulfill his duty as a husband, and a woman should fulfill her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other's needs.

(Genesis 2:24 KJV)  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (A TEAM)